Are certain social norms counterproductive to maintaining a healthy work-life balance? Peer pressure exerts substantial influence in the United States and in American companies. Nearly 17% of managers report that employees who take all their vacation days are less likely to get promoted in the future.
Once a month, my husband has a hell of a week. For five days in a row, he gets up at 3:30am to deliver a detailed report at 7:00am on Eastern European stock markets. Given the earliness of the hour, I never really tried to figure out his exact responsibility in these reports. The point is that instead of working a typical 9-to-7 day, he switches to a 4-to-6. This scheduling makes me crazy, not only because Poor Husband works too much, but also because our family has to be even more sensitive to his fatigue.
Peer pressure at the office
Why doesn’t he leave earlier? His arguments: there’s too much work to do and nobody else who can do it. Additionally, his boss may form a bad opinion of him if he left work before his colleagues. Leave before his colleagues? He starts every day 4 hours earlier than they do, so he should be able to leave before, shouldn’t he? I guess I’m just lucky he comes home at 6:00pm instead of the usual 7:00pm.
Peer pressure on vacation
My husband faces the same tension with his vacation time. His contract allows him 25 paid vacation days a year. But in 2014, he left 9 days unused. He’s not alone. According to a study published in TIME, in 2013 millions of American workers with access to paid time-off left 429 million days of vacation unused.
He belongs to the 61% Americans who say they plan to keep working during their vacation. He’s always loved working and enjoys his current job. But sometimes, it’s too much. Checking emails daily may be okay, but working during vacation crosses the line from dedication to foolishness, in my opinion. Taking time off allows all workers to relax and recharge low personal batteries.
Is peer pressure an American topic only?
“Peer pressure” is one of the terms I learned since living in the States. Is peer pressure among working adults more visible in the States than in France or Germany? I would say no, but French people and Germans don’t live for work alone. Personal or professional achievements are important in France. But family, friends, and quality time are also important.
Let’s return to the work of Hofstede, the Dutch social psychologist. In past blog posts, I’ve already developed some of his points (see “The Challenge of Cross-Cultural Communication” and “How to Navigate the Minefield of Work-Life Balance“). Hofstede identified achievement (termed “Masculinity”) as a relevant cultural dimension. Americans and Germans score high on the achievement scale and are more performance-oriented, while French people prioritize quality of life, albeit not to the level of Sweden and other Scandinavian countries.
My husband is French, but he has always worked for German and American companies with a high performance orientation. This contradicts his French education, which also emphasizes good food and wines, as well as time with family and friends. Although my husband loves his job, his life is not well-balanced.
A senior executive at my husband’s office recently stated in an interview that “we all struggle with how to handle work-life balance” but that he’s “lucky to have a wife who at this stage doesn’t have a job and is willing to take care of everything at home. We took a joint decision for me to come here; she knew what she was getting into. Not everyone is so lucky.”
Maybe he is right about one partner needing to stay home, but maybe not. I am a modern French woman who likes to run her own business while raising three children. When I’m not able to work, I am an awful wife and mother. But I am not Wonder Woman, and even I need time off. Right now, I’m sitting beside the pool in San Diego, watching my family and enjoying every single minute with them.
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